Learning how to eat pussy well is the most important bedroom skills a guy can have. Even if you’re sexual performance leaves a lot to be desired, if you can just get pretty good at oral sex then you’re going to give most girls a very good time.
There are lots of highly detailed guides online that really teach you how to master this art. This guide is more for those of you that want to quickly upgrade your skills and don’t want to spend months learning and practising.
The formula I’m about to give you is something that works for me. It’s based on conversations and experiences with lots of girls I’ve been with personally, as well as bits and pieces I read that helped me.
With most aspects of sex, I’d say communication is the key to upping your game. If you want to give a girl what she wants and needs, simply ask her what she wants and needs.
But the cool thing about cunnilingus is you don’t really need to ask anything at all. It’s pretty easy to figure out what she likes by feeling how her body reacts or listening to the sounds she makes.
There is no single formula that will please your girl every time or all girls every single time. It would be boring to do the same thing every time you fuck.
But the method I’m about to give you is very reliable. It’s particularly good with girls you only just started sleeping with as they might be a bit shy to tell you what they like. So let’s get into it before she comes over.
Atmosphere
Before we get into how to eat pussy itself. Let’s lay down a few basic steps that will make your job a lot easier. You want your girl to feel sexy and relaxed and that starts with the atmosphere.
Try not to just jump on her and ram your tongue down her throat when she’s not ready. Unless that’s the mood you’re both in. If you’ve been flirting all night and you finally get to your apartment and just have to jump on each other, then go with that vibe. Just make sure it’s mutual.
In general you want to create a sexy atmosphere wherever you’re going to do the deed. That doesn’t mean you need to go overboard lighting candles and chucking flowers all over the bed. You just have to avoid anything that will make her feel unsexy.
At the very least, you just need to have a clean apartment, dim lighting, music that isn’t shit and have a basic selection of drinks ready should she want one. Basically, just enough to show you’re actually an adult.
In my experience, it’s just way harder for girls to enjoy sex if they don’t feel comfortable, sexy and relaxed. So make your place somewhere you can both enjoy being together whether you are having sex or not. It will help a lot.
Foreplay
What does foreplay have to do with eating pussy? Well, everything. It’s going to improve your chances of giving her an orgasm by so much!
While lots of foreplay isn’t needed every time you have sex, foreplay is your friend when improving your sexual performance. Although you can get turned on very quickly and cum very quickly, it’s not like that for girls.
A lot of what I’m going to teach you in this guide is constantly building sexual intensity. Foreplay is such an important part of that.
You want to start very slowly. Don’t just “grab her by the pussy” as soon as you start kissing. Build up to that whole area very slowly.
I recommend not touching her pussy at all for as long as you can. The longer you can resist touching her vagina, the more she will crave that you touch it. This means it’s going to be so much more intense when you finally do.
During foreplay, focus on the other parts of her body. Have fun learning all her sensitive areas. Experiment with different types of touches, kisses and even bites. Try to learn what she likes. But keep varying what you do to keep things interesting.
Your goal is to make her entire body feel appreciated and teased. Stroke your hand up her inner thigh and get close to her pussy but never quite touch it. Not yet.
Gradually move your kisses lower and lower on her body. Until your head is between her legs, kiss her inner thigh. Stroke the skin next to her vagina with your finger or tongue. This area is so sensitive. She should be dying for you to lick her pussy at this point.
The goal is to drive her crazy. If you are doing it right, she will probably ask you or even beg you to lick her or even grab your head and try to make things happen a bit faster.
You can also play with her mind a little here. Move your mouth over her pussy so your are so close to tasting her. But then simply breath out gently and start kissing her somewhere else. This kind of teasing is frustrating but it does so much to heighten the anticipation.
The more of this you do, the more turned on she is going to be, which means the more likely she is to cum when you finally start to licking her.
How to eat pussy
Once you feel it’s time to stop teasing. My advice is to go for it. Give her a taste of what she wants. You should lick her clitoris gently but firmly from the bottom to the top.
I would normally go a little crazy here for a few seconds to give her a little preview of what might be coming up. When I say go crazy, I mean to try different things with your tongue. Licking from down to up. Up and down. Side to side. You can even try random directions by writing the alphabet with your tongue.
At this point, I would normally pull back a little. We now need to figure out exactly what she likes and what will get her to cum.
Go back to gently but firmly licking from the bottom to the top of her clitoris. Don’t lick too quickly. Start slowly. Do this for 30 seconds or so and really focus on the sounds she’s making.
Is her body responding or is she a dead fish? In most cases she won’t be responding too much yet. We need to figure out what she needs.
First you should experiment with different pressure levels. Get stronger and stronger with your tongue. Keep getting stronger until you feel that getting stronger doesn’t give her more feeling. You will know this from the way her hips and body are moving.
There are many ways to eat pussy. So now you need to figure out which actions she enjoys the most. The ones I always try are:
- Licking from bottom to top, the one you’re already doing.
- Licking from top to bottom, when you do this make sure you really get the top of her clit. Use one of your hands to stretch the skin back on her belly so you can access the clit better with your tongue. I find this is one of the best ways to make a girl cum from eating pussy as it’s quite tricky to stimulate this area which makes it more sensitive.
- Up and down. This going from bottom to top, then top to bottom.
- Side to side. Your tongue will tire very quickly doing this, so make it tense and move your head instead.
- Side to side and up and down. While moving your head side to side also move your tongue from bottom to top.
- Sucking the clit while licking with your tongue.
- Inserting a couple of fingers to fuck her with or massage her G-spot at the same time as you lick her.
You need to try as many techniques as possible and try to feel from her reactions what she likes. Make a mental note of the ones she likes.
Giving her an orgasm
The key to giving her an orgasm is two things: reading what she likes from her body and perseverance.
You also need her to be relaxed if you want her to cum. She might ask you to fuck her at some point way before she cums. Just be strong and tell her no. Tell her to relax, to empty her head and make it very clear to her you enjoy doing this, and you want to make her feel good.
The goal is to remove any anxiety or guilt she might have about being so selfish while you eat her pussy. It seems to help a lot.
Then it’s all about constantly building intensity. You should know which techniques she likes. So start with the ones she likes least and build the intensity slowly. You do this by licking faster and faster. And stronger and stronger.
When her physical responses peak, that’s when you change the technique that’s more intense for her and again, keep trying to build the intensity for her.
Hopefully, she will cum before you run out of techniques. But you should also be careful. If you know she is close to cumming, don’t change anything. Just keep doing what you are doing. It’s working.
There is nothing worse than a girl changing technique when you are close to cumming from a blowjob. It’s the same for girls. If you are lucky, she will probably say something like “don’t stop\”, so you know not to change anything. But ideally, you should be reading her body language and you should feel it when she’s close.
So persevere. Even if your tongue starts aching, even if you’re bored. Eating pussy is a marathon, not a sprint. Whatever you do. . . Don’t. Stop. Not when she’s close!
Try to be hyper-aware of how her body is responding when she is close to cumming. Just a subtle change in your technique could send her over the edge and bring her to orgasm.
Suppose you do manage to give her an orgasm. Well done. She’s going to like you a lot. If you haven’t. Try not to stress out over it. It’s not your fault. It’s not her fault. An orgasm isn’t the be-all and end-all of sex for girls. They experience sex so differently to us.
Don’t put pressure on her to achieve an orgasm. This won’t help. Instead, focus on being a good partner so she can truly feel comfortable and be herself with you. If it doesn’t happen right away, it will eventually so long as you keep trying to learn what works for her mind and body.
Bonus pussy eating
So you followed my guide and gave a girl an amazing time as you ate her pussy like a pro. So now you will probably have sex. But why stop there? Who said she only gets to have one orgasm?
Girls can come again and again and again with no rest in between. So if you want to give a girl a truly memorable experience, why not continue eating her pussy some more?
Now you mastered that, take your skills to the next level and learn How to make a girl squirt?