How to make a girl horny

So, you want to make a girl horny. Whether you’re planning for a romantic night with your partner or you’re just wanting to know for future reference, getting a girl in the mood can be tough but this guide is here to help.

Girls work differently than guys and that means that you need to know what you’re doing in order to get your partner turned on. What many guys don’t know is how to properly turn on a girl so that she gets super wet and spending time with you blows her away.

To help you out, here is a comprehensive guide to making a girl horny that can create a truly fantastic time for all.

Do girls get horny?

Before we jump into how to get a girl in the mood for sex, let’s talk about whether or not girls actually get horny. After all, sometimes it can seem like us dudes are the only ones who are ready to have some fun around here!

In fact, women get horny just like guys do. The difference is that men have a higher sex drive and get turned on in a more straightforward way. Yes. Girls are more complicated. This can make it tough to make a girl horny as what turns you on isn’t what will turn her on.

If you’re trying to turn a girl on and nothing seems to be happening, don’t panic. Chances are you just don’t know the signs that she’s getting turn on yet. And, women tend to take longer to get turned on so be patient and don’t rush.

When are women the most horny?

Did you know that there are certain times at which a woman is hornier? That’s right! Most girls have a preferred time of the day or, ah-hem, of the month that they’d rather have sex.

For one, women tend to be much more sexually aroused right before their period. When a woman is ovulating, she’s much more likely to be “in the mood\” and to want to get it on with you.

In addition to being horniest before their period, women tend to be most turned on between 11 pm and 2 am. That means that while morning sex might be great for getting rid of morning wood, it’s not necessarily the best time to try wooing your woman.

Signs a girl is horny

Okay, so we’ve established that women get horny just like guys do. But, how do you actually know that she’s turned on?

The good news is that it’s pretty easy to tell if a woman is in the mood or not. Here are a few signs that your girl is getting turned on.

Her nipples get hard

We all know that men get hard when they get turned on. However, women get hard in a way of their own. When women are aroused, erectile tissues in the breasts cause the nipples to harden.

She gets hot

Another sign that your girl is getting horny is that her body temperature increases. During arousal, women’s base temperature rises. That can make her body feel warm and you may see her skin flush as her arousal increases.

She gets touchier

Another good sign that your girl is getting in the mood is that she gets touchier. When women are turned on, they are more likely to touch you and to respond well to your touches. You can encourage this by toucher her more. Just make sure your touches are wanted and not creepy if it’s a girl you’re still getting to know.

Her pupils get dilated

Do you know how they say that the eyes are the window to the soul? Well, in the bedroom this is certainly true. When you’re feeling sensual, erotic, and turned on, your pupils dilate, and so do hers.

She gets relaxed

Some women are naturally more shy than others, making it tough for them to let their guard down. When a woman is turned on, even the timidest girl will start doing things she wouldn’t normally, such as becoming more flirtatious or simply being more comfortable talking about sex.

She’s wet

One of the most obvious signs that a woman is turned on is that her vagina gets wet. Women get wet because of vaginal fluids that are produced as their bodies release estrogen. The increased lubrication makes it easier for a man to penetrate her.

Her vagina expands

It’s well-known that vagina muscles expand during childbirth, but they actually expand during arousal too. The reason for this is so that men with large penises can easily penetrate her. If you notice your woman suddenly seems more stretched than you remember, this is a good sign that she’s turned on.

Get the mood right to get her horny

Part of learning how to turn a girl on is learning how to set the mood. After all, having the right atmosphere will get any girl’s heart racing and make her weak in the knees.

To set the mood for a romantic time with your partner, there are a few things you’ll want to do. Follow these tips to help you create an atmosphere that screams sexy time.

Dim the lights

Sure, you can have sex in the dark or under full-bright light, but neither of those is sexy. In order to make things erotic, you’ll want to have a little bit of light but not too much.

If you’re not sure, think about the lighting you get in a strip club. There’s a reason why they use dim lighting in strip clubs. Everyone, including you, looks better with dim lighting and it creates a mysterious atmosphere. Use it to enhance her arousal.

You can use candles or fairy lights to create a gorgeous, dimly lit space. Don’t be afraid to place lots of candles around the room to give it a cosy and romantic glow.

Make some effort with the interior

Girls appreciate it when their man makes some effort for them. This is important for the place you’re going to have sex too. That doesn’t mean you have to go crazy and redecorate your apartment and throw fresh flower petals around every time you get it on.

But at the very least you should have a clean apartment and clean bed linin when you invite her over. There’s nothing sexy about dirt. I’ve heard plenty of girls decide not to see someone again after seeing their apartment.

Play music

Background music can really help to set the scene. Make sure that it’s nothing that will take the focus away from each other so that you can stay focused on the task at hand.

Personally, I stick to RnB or some low-fi hip-hop when a girl comes over. It’s not distracting and the beats are sexy.

Drinks and snacks

It’s a good idea to always have some drinks and snacks on hand. It shows you’re an adult that can take care of yourself and others when they visit.

Plus it will help create a relaxing environment. Having a glass of wine or tea, and maybe some snacks too gives you something to do while you relax and get comfortable with each other. If she drinks alcohol then a little wine will help you both open up more and lose a few sexual inhibitions. Just don’t overdo it. There’s nothing sexy about sex while drunk.

Remember the aroma

People’s noses are extremely sensitive. That means that having a room that smells delicious is just as important for setting the atmosphere as having soft lighting and music playing.

You can use scented candles to achieve a barely noticeable yet tantalizing aroma to get your girl in the mood. Select scents that aren’t overpowering but that make the area smell beautiful. And remember, at the very least you just need to make sure your apartment smells clean.

So, you’ve set the mood and you know what signs to look for in your woman. Now it’s time to make sure that you really give her a night to remember.

To help you out, I’ve written down a few pro tips that can help you out. These suggestions will make it easier for you to make her horny. Of course, no two girls are the same but as a general guide, this is a great starting place.

Be respectful

Okay, we’ve all seen porn models get right to it when they’re in the bedroom doing the deed. However, if you’re trying to turn a girl on, this isn’t always the best move.

Women like to feel appreciated. If you don’t make a girl feel valued and relaxed, she is not going to get turned on. Being a gentleman is the first step you’ll want to take to get your girl in the mood.

To help you out, here are some things you can do to be a gentleman in the bedroom:

Focus on her and don’t talk about yourself too much
Don’t act bored in front of her
Be interested in everything that she is saying, not just sex
Listen and ask her questions about what she’s saying

These might seem like tasks that anyone could accomplish, but you’d be surprised at how many guys fail at this and kill her sexual mood.

Build up the tension

Okay, let’s talk about sexual tension for a second. Sexual tension is that chemistry between the two of you when you both desire each other but haven’t yet done anything sexual.

This step is critical for turning on a woman. You’ll want to use a combination of words, touch, and your imagination to build up the tension and create the right atmosphere.

You can start building sexual tension long before the two of you are actually in person. You can start by sending subtle flirty text messages. These little moves can help you get your girl in the mood before she even comes in the door.

You could take this to the next level by exchanging nudes too. But be careful you do this right and don’t piss her off. Check my guide to asking for nudes if you need help with this.

Once the two of you are in person together, keep building up the atmosphere. Use little, sexy touches where you can. Make eye contact with her and take chances to brush her elbow or secretly touch her to help build up the tension. The key is to give her something like say putting your arm around her while walking.

But don’t give her everything. Make her wait for a kiss for example. Your goal is to leave her imagination desiring more and more from you. The longer you can keep this going, the hornier she will get.

Tease her

Okay, remember when you were in primary school and you would tease your crush in the classroom? The truth is, we boys weren’t too far off the mark with what women want.

Girls actually like to be teased as a way of showing them attention. To really get your girl in the mood, you’ll need to tease her in every way possible. This is a really difficult one to get right.

Your goal is to be playful and build rapport. You don’t want to be offensive, you don’t want to belittle her or act superior. If you are doing it well she will tease you back.

Another sign you are doing this well is you will begin to develop some in-jokes together and maybe start to have your own secret words for things.

If you’re not good at this you should try to practice on a daily basis with girls you meet in day to day life. Try to get used to bantering with girls. Watch carefully how they react to things you say to learn where the line between playful and offensive is.

If you want something you can use right away, silly nicknames are a good place to start. You could also lighthearted mock her accent or call something out that’s a bit nerdy about her. In general, most people won’t be offended by these. Of course you could totally get this wrong, for example by mocking a racial accent. Then you’re in trouble!

So really try to practice your banter and learn to read the room so you know when you’re being fun and when you’re being a dick.

Don’t forget the foreplay

One of the biggest mistakes men make when trying to turn a girl on is rushing in for the kill too quickly. With women, foreplay is essential to getting her wet so that the two of you can have the best time possible.

You’ll need to work slowly, teasing her with your words and with your body. Doing so will take a while, so be patient.

On top of that, don’t be afraid to get creative. You can use your tongue to play with her mouth, neck, or shoulders while you’re hands are doing something else. This can help really light the fire in your girl.

Just like with the main event, you should start slow with foreplay. Steadily work up to more passionate manoeuvres as she gets more turned on. However, moving too quickly can be a turn off which will mean you’ll have to start all over again.

To take things to another level you should use contrasting techniques. For example, you could focus on being slow, deliberate and sensual. Touch and kiss her ever so gently. Then change gear and be much more dominant, let her feel your masculinity. Grab, squeeze, kiss and even bite her passionately.

Then switch back to sensual. This push and pull will keep surprising her and raise her level of arousal through the roof. It will make her crave more from you.

Where to touch a girl to make her horny

If you need some extra help with foreplay, there are a few areas that you should focus on touching. These are called the female erogenous zones and are parts of the body that get her in the mood when touched. Here are the areas to focus on when trying to make a girl horny.

The eyelids

One surprising place that you can touch a girl to turn her on is on the eyelids. The nerve endings on the eyelids are extremely sensitive, making them perfect for a very gentle touch.

The temples

There’s nothing like a temple massage to relax you. However, for girls, the temples are also highly erotic. It’s a great place to touch your girl to get her in the mood.

The lips

Of course, the lips have to be on the list. The lips are one of the most excitable places for a woman.

The ears

Another intense zone to play with is the ears. Lightly play with your partner’s earlobes using your tongue while you kiss her ear. Doing so will send her absolutely wild. In fact, this area is so sensitive that you will find some girls don’t like it because it’s too sensitive.

The neck

The neck is the perfect zone to caress. Be tender as you play with your partner on her neck to get her turned on. While it’s fun to choke your girl, leave this for once you’ve got the action going.

The shoulders

The shoulders are another great place to caress or tease with kisses. You can also bite the shoulders to add a little spice to your bedroom game and mix things up a bit.

The belly

There’s nothing like the soft belly of a woman. One of the turn-ons for a girl is her belly. You can stroke it or cover it with kisses as you get ready to eat her pussy.

The underbelly

Make sure not to forget the underbelly. This is the area that leads down to the end zone and is an area that you can really play with and tease to get her turned on.

The inner thighs

The inner thighs are incredibly sensitive. Use these at any time to heighten her arousal. Try gently or firmly stroking your hand from just above the knee and get very close to but don’t quite touch her pussy. The goal is to make her need more from you.

Later on with foreplay, do the same thing with your mouth. You can kiss, lick and stroke her inner thighs all the way up to her outer labia. This whole area is so sensitive it will drive her wild. She may even beg you to taste her pussy or fuck her if you are doing foreplay right. This is exactly where you want her to be mentally before sex.

The clitoris

The king (er, or should I say queen) of all the female erogenous zones is the clitoris. You can play with this by flicking it, licking it in a swirling motion, and touching it to get your girl turned on. Practice with her to see what she likes best. Check my more comprehensive guide on pussy eating for more tips.

The anus

It’s easy to forget about the anus but it’s one of the most sensitive parts of a girls body. It contains thousands of nerve endings.

Assuming your girl is clean then don’t be afraid to stimulate this area with your tongue or a wet finger. If you want to become an expert on this area, be sure to check my guide to eating ass too.

Be dominant

Most but not all girls love dominance. It’s a way to show your masculinity. When you’re dominant in the bedroom, you’re showing her that you’re protective and powerful and that you’ll take care of her both inside and outside of the bedroom.

A few ways that you can show dominance in the bedroom include:

Be assertive when you speak. Use statements rather than questions. “I want you to suck my cock” is more dominant than “could you suck my cock please?”
Pinning your girl down while you have your way with her
Telling her what to do and guiding her head, hands, or mouth to the places you want them

These are a few ways that you can really take control in the bedroom and get your woman turned on. Remember, you should mix up your tactics with her. While it’s great to be dominant sometimes, there are times when she may want to take the lead.

Move from gentle to intense touching

To get your girl in the mood, you’ll want to alternate light, gentle touch with intense and passionate touch. This makes sure that you’re pushing all the right buttons to get her turned on.

Start by kissing her and caressing her body with your hands. From there, make her wait a few seconds until you continue playing with her. She’ll often try to make her own move during this time.

When she does, you can either choose to pull back and tease her, or you can let her take control for a moment. Then, take it back to the top and get moving again.

During this part of turning on your partner, you shouldn’t be too passionate. you’ll want to start out slowly and work your way down her body with these manoeuvres.

Each time you touch her, make it a little more intense or sneak your hands or mouth lower down her body. You want to be slowly working her up more and getting more passionate as you go along.

However, this should be subtle so that she doesn’t realize that you’re changing the tempo on her. Keep things natural and pay attention to the way your woman’s body is responding to your touch. If her reaction isn’t positive, slow it down and take it back to the top.

Make eye contact

Eye contact is truly your secret weapon in the bedroom. While you might not think about it, eye contact helps you bond both mentally and physically with your partner.

Girls place a lot of importance on emotional and mental connections. That means that taking the time to make eye contact and connect with her is important for getting her turned on.

When making eye contact with a girl, you don’t necessarily need to be touching her. You can stimulate her at the same time, but try starting out by simply gazing into her eyes. Your eyes will communicate desire, respect, love, confidence, lust, and many other emotions that can get her in the mood.

When you do start stimulating your girl, make sure to make and hold eye contact with her. This shows her that you’re confident and that you know what you want and how to get it. Pretty soon, you’ll have her begging for you to penetrate her.

Get her mentally aroused

Most of what we’ve talked about so far have to do with physical touch or has a very sexual connotation. However, you can also get your girl in the mood just by mentally stimulating her.

Start by using dirty talk to make her imagination run wild. You’ll want to imply sexual favours or acts without necessarily saying them out loud. Insinuate what you want to do to her without ever explicitly saying what it is that you have planned.

Girls love when their man leaves them a lot of guesswork. It makes it exciting for them and lets them imagine what you want to do to them without spoiling the surprise. And, this serves as a natural aphrodisiac for women that really gets them in the mood.

Mental stimulation makes for a great transition into foreplay. You can start by talking to her about what you want to do to her and then slowly begin touching her or move on to sexual activities with her.

Focus on pleasing her

When going to bed with a partner, you need to make sure that the event is all about her. You should be focusing on giving her exactly what she wants and make sure that you leave her begging for more.

Once you’ve pleasured her, you don’t need to worry about what she’ll do to you. She’ll pay you back in full as soon as you’ve made her feel good, making it a night that the both of you will remember.

And, make sure to talk with her. Ask your girl what she likes and what her fantasies are. Learning about your partner is an important part of pleasing her in the bedroom.

Plus, the more you talk about sex with your partner, the more sex you will have with her. She’ll know that you’re listening to her and that you know how to give her what she wants, which will, in turn, make her want to give you more of what you want too.

Use your tongue

Let’s be honest. Most of us men think with our dicks. That means that we can sometimes forget that we have other parts of the body that we can use to turn a woman on with, too.

One of the most important weapons you have at your disposal is your tongue. With your tongue, you can play with just about any part of her body and make her shiver.

Remember, you don’t want to start using your tongue until the two of you are in the bedroom. Otherwise, you could come across as creepy or as too eager.

Once you do make it to the bedroom, combine playing with your hands with using your tongue on your girl. Build up to intercourse and use your tongue to get her aroused.

You should focus on playing with her erogenous zones using your tongue. This will really help up the ante and get her in the mood for what comes next.

Cuddle her

Cuddling is a great anytime. Everyone loves cuddling. You can invite a girl to cuddle on the couch or while you put on a movie. Doing so can help her to relax and make her feel more comfortable.

On top of that, cuddling shows her that you’re not planning on friend-zoning her. You can get up close and personal with her without pulling a move, too, making you the gentleman of the hour.

To show her that you’re interested in her while hugging or cuddling her, pull her body close to you. Make sure to hold onto the hug for a little bit longer than is appropriate.

Many men don’t realize that cuddling can be the perfect segway into sex. It’s the ideal way to get your girl horny by running your hands down her arms or spine without having to explicitly say anything to her. And, it lets you test the waters if you’re with a new partner.

Feel your girl

Women operate differently than men. As such, you need to pay careful attention to her body language and to how she approaches you.

Typically, most women are nervous when they first have sex with someone. They’re worried that you’ll reject her and that she’ll be left feeling embarrassed.

It doesn’t matter how bad your girl is at offering you sex, make sure that you always say yes. If you don’t, you’re on the fast track to never hooking up with her again.

As your girl gets more comfortable with you, it will be easier for her to initiate intimacy. You’ll be able to slowly entice her into feeling more relaxed and at ease with you, which will in turn get her horny faster.

Be patient

The secret to turning a woman on is to find a balance with her. You need to make sure that you’re not moving too quickly so that she doesn’t feel rushed and so that she feels she can take her time to get warmed up to you.

However, you can’t take too long, either. You need to make sure that you’re listening to your partner and to how she is responding to what you’re doing. Taking things too slow can kill the mood and make it tough for your girl to get back in gear.

When you notice that your partner is ready to move on, don’t immediately transition to the full monty. Take your time transitioning into the next phase to tantalize her even more.

The more turned on your girl is when you get ready to get down and dirty with her, the more she’ll enjoy the night. And, as you watch her move with you and beg for more, you’ll enjoy it more too!

Activities to turn your girl on

Now, let’s talk about how you can get the sex started. While you might be ready to jump into the sheets right away, often your girl will take a little bit longer to warm up to the idea.

The good news is that there are plenty of activities you can do to get her hot and heavy. Here are a few of my favourite activities to try out to get my girl ready for a wild night.

Kissing makes girls horny

This might sound cliche, but it’s true that kissing is one of the fastest ways to get the party started. Start by kissing your girl on the lips lightly. Then, slide your tongue across her lips and slowly put it in her mouth.

After you’ve kissed her mouth for a while, you can move onto some of her erogenous zones that we talked about earlier. Nibble her earlobe gently, then trace her jawline with your tongue.

Remember, when kissing your girl it’s important to alternate being passionate and dominant with being soft and tender. Many girls don’t like when you start off a kiss with too much force. It can feel to them as though you’re trying to rush into getting intimate right away.

Give her a massage

Another way to start the night off is to give your girl a massage. I’m not talking about a gentle, spa-type of massage, either. I’m talking about giving your woman an erotic massage.

To start, make sure that you don’t have long nails. Hangnails and rough skin can hurt her rather than turning her on. Wash your hands and moisturize them to make sure that your skin is soft and ready to massage.

Start by asking her to remove her shirt. Gently, using slow motions, caress her back. Slowly you can start to caress her neck and shoulder blades and then slowly move to her waist and hips.

The key to giving your partner a sexy massage is to make sure you don’t rush to her waist and intimate areas too fast. Start by massaging her back before you move too much lower.

Whisper sweet nothings

Getting the fun started doesn’t have to be physical. One of the best ways to win a woman over is to whisper sweet nothings in her ear. This doesn’t have to be anything you’ve rehearsed but should come from the heart.

Start by gently whispering to her, complimenting her and letting her know just how into her you are. Then, slowly change your town to a low, juicy murmur. From there, you can start sprinkling your language with sexual innuendos.

When both of you are turned on, you can start to use graphic descriptions. Make sure that this is something your girl likes before you do so, however. Otherwise, it could ruin the mood completely.

Again, not every girl will like this. Some will just find it annoying. So always read her reactions before continuing with this. If she has a surprised or blank, look on her face then you can tell she finds it a bit weird.

Watch porn or erotica

Another great choice for getting your partner in the mood is to watch an erotic film with her. You should make sure to reassure her that you only have eyes for her and that you want to do what the actors are doing with her.

When picking a movie, give her a choice of what she wants to watch. You’ll want to see what she’s interested in and will get a chance to see how kinky your woman really is, too.

Watching porn or erotic movies together is great because it helps break down barriers between you and your partner. Plus, you can get inspired by some challenging sex positions that you and your girl can try together.

I do not advise this for new partners. It’s super creepy to whip out your porn collection for someone new unless you both have a love of porn and are meeting for purely sexual or kink related reasons. With new partners, the “Netflix ‘n’ chill\” is much safer!

Play games

There are some sexy games out there that you can play with your partner. In general I think it can be a bit cheesy to play games, particularly sex games but if you’re shy about initiating sex they are. a good way to ease yourself into it.

You can try playing “Truth or Dare\” and ramp up the sexiness as the game progresses.

Or, you can choose to play with sex dice or other erotic games. Sex dice and erotic games give you and your partner sexual tasks to complete for each other that can really get the two of you in the mood.

Another fun way to get frisky with your partner is to cook together and increase the fliting as you cook. Feeding her a little taste of what you made together is sexy. You can flirt by maybe putting a bit of sauce on her nose in a playful manner. Cooking can lead to some spontaneous and intense sex.

Read a sexy book together

It’s not just games and porn that can get you in the mood. Sometimes all you need is. asexy book.

You could read it together, which personally I find a bit cheesy. Or you could simply send her one you think she will like.

Words can be even more powerful than visual cues for turning a girl on and getting her in the mood. And, luckily, there are plenty of erotic books out there that the two of you can use. They’re particularly good in long term relationships when you need some extra inspiration.

Role play

If the two of you are into fantasy, role play can be the ideal way to get your girl super turned on. Ask her what her fantasies are and get into a costume or character that she’ll love.

Don’t be afraid to get weird with this one, often the hottest fantasies are a bit fucked up. Just remember it’s a fantasy. You are acting. It’s not real life so embrace your kinks together, judgement-free.

If you’re feeling shy or uncomfortable, she will too. Make sure that you’re confident in your role play before you give this a go, or you will end up turning her OFF instead of turning her on.

What starts as a game will quickly turn sexy. Feel free to improvise and do what feels right in the moment. And remember it’s just fun so don’t be afraid to laugh if it’s funny. The more natural it feels, the better the sex will be once you two move forward. And, she’ll be happy to reverse the roles and try her hand at roleplaying for you, too.